The Dating predicament

Relationships are tough, like a full time occupation, and we should treat it like one. If your girlfriend wants to dump you, they should give you two weeks’ notice. There should be severance pay, and on the eve they are to leave, they should have to find you a temp!

How cool would that be? Unfortunately, it doesn’t work so and hence you need to make the effort!

Men say they just don’t want to deal with dating any more and it’s easier to stay home or go out with their men friends.

Women complain that their phone isn’t ringing. There is something seriously wrong.

Not only is it hard for people to meet, but it is equally tricky to know how to behave on a date. The overwhelming majority of single people DO want to meet someone, but they don’t know where to go. Here are some suggestions. Public lectures and workshops are excellent for meeting people with similar interests. They’re packed with women. So, men, start watching the paper and select topics that you find appealing. If you’re interested and she is, you begin with something in common.

Adult education classes are also good. Women tend to get out and do things because they prefer not to sit around and “wait for the mobile to ring.” Again, pick subjects you find fascinating.

The regular guy..

If you’re looking for a serious relationship, go to relationship classes and lectures. The women you find there are also interested or they wouldn’t be there. Be sure and watch for the wedding ring, though, because the proportion of married women at a relationship lecture is higher than a lot of other evening classes. But don’t be afraid to make friends with them. They know women who are single and good looking and you being at a relationship class or lecture will cause them to presume you’re a better catch than the regular guy.

As mentioned previously, dance classes are a good way to meet available women. Choose the kind of dancing you think you might enjoy (swing, ballroom, line, square, salsa, tango) and show up with an attitude that it will be pleasurable and maybe, just maybe, one of the women you dance with will be someone you’ll want to get to know. If you don’t meet anyone then you’ll be a superior catch because most women like a man who is a good dancer.

Never turn down a private party or wedding. It’s completely acceptable to go without a date and people are comfortable because they know at least the host and/or hostess. People are happy, their hearts are open, and they’re feeling festive, which makes them more open and friendly.

Public parties are good too, but people are not quite as comfortable. So you have to work a lot harder to get through their barriers. Normally, there are a lot of single, available, fun women at these kinds of events. Watch your local paper for theme events in public parks, dances, concerts, parades, and ticketed events.

The university often organises talks, and you get to meet university girls out there. Again, choose topic of your interest, it will make things easier.

There are also some religious talks and programmes. You will find religious and cultured girls out there. It is a perfect place to begin if you want a traditional housewife.

This may seem silly but a different fun way to meet is to borrow a puppy. Walk around or sit in a busy spot that will have a lot of happy people. Few can resist a cute puppy. Conversations begin very contentedly because you can focus on the puppy, and have something easy to talk about.

The reason to borrow a puppy is because bigger dogs don’t have the same result. Not everyone is a dog lover, but almost everyone love puppies. Don’t ever lie that it’s your puppy though. Just say it’s a friends’.

When you meet someone you want to get to know better, tell her you’re a little shy with women and someone said it’s a great ice-breaker. You’ll melt her heart.

If you do have a dog, and it’s well-mannered, do take it out to places where women will be walking: Along the beachfront, at malls, parks. If you have a dog, you want a woman who likes dogs and this is a perfect way to find only women who do.

The above suggestions make it easy to start conversations because there are built-in interests to get you started. Something to remember: everyone is just as nervous as you are and waiting for someone to get things underway. It might as well be you... and maybe a cute puppy.