Common Dating Mistakes Men Make and how to avoid dating mistakes

Common Dating Mistakes to Avoid

Let’s face it, dating doesn’t come naturally. And dating after the age of 30 or 40 is a minefield of potential mistakes that could make or break your chance of a terrific woman wanting to get to know you better. Some of those mistakes are of no real consequence, certainly not deal-breakers. So those aren’t the ones I’m going to be talking about.

It’s the mysterious mistakes that you’re unaware of that cause that great girl to want to get away as quickly as possible. It’s particularly puzzling when you think the date went well and she doesn’t want to go out with you again, with you wondering what the heck went wrong.

Because she’s uncomfortable telling you explicitly why she doesn’t want to see you again, you can only presume, and sadly, all too often, you end up writing her off as a bitch, which isn’t always the case.

Wouldn’t that feedback be useful? Without it, how are you going to develop your dating skills and build your confidence? If you don’t have a clue how you’re coming across maybe the following list of common mistakes will help you see something that you’ve been doing without realizing it.
 
What is the purpose of Self Improvement?

Why should you worry trying to advance yourself? Because the better you are at being a confident, masterful man, and at communicating with women and understanding what they want, the more fascinating and attractive you’ll be. And the better you get at showing up as a self-assured man, the higher the quality of women you’ll magnetize and the more women you’ll have to choose from.







The trade-off? You have to put some effort into improving yourself but you get to be the kind of man most women are looking for. Not bad, huh?


 

Where Did You Learn To Date?

Like most of us, you most likely learned to date when you were in high school, then “fine tuned” your skills in college, then got along by hit or miss after that. Even on the occasions when you got it right, did you know what you did? Can you repeat it?

So now, here you are, wanting to start dating seriously because you’re ready for a long-term relationship with a special woman with whom to share your life.

You head out on your first date. It seems to go pretty well, but she tells you she doesn’t want to go out with you again.

Then another first date. This woman isn’t interested in seeing you again either.

What’s going on, you wonder? You start to doubt yourself, “What am I doing wrong?”

You ask and she tells you there’s no chemistry, you didn’t know how to communicate, or you didn’t seem to be that interested. What are you supposed to do with that information?

So you stumble on, hoping that one of these days, you’ll meet the woman you’re looking for and, for a change, she won’t be a mystery.

The next post will give you much needed insight into the mysteries of dating women more effectively.

After you’ve read the 15 mistakes, you’ll be attractive to more of the women you meet and when that special woman comes along, she won’t be able to keep you off her mind. That’s when you get enthusiastic encouragement for a second date. Why? Because those women will be basking in your masculinity.

What Are You Looking For in a Woman?

I think it is a good idea to be very clear about what you want. Are you looking for a fling, a serious girlfriend, a long-term commitment, or marriage? Give this some hard thought. What are the consequences and responsibilities of each? If you’re looking for marriage, how do you want the financial responsibilities to be arranged? Do you want her to participate 50/50? Do you want children? Once you know the answers to these questions you’ll be able to choose more wisely.

So.. What are you looking for in a woman?

What age range will work for you? How flexible are you? How important is it that she looks a certain way? Are you open to being surprised by what you find attractive? If you have to have a blond who is ten or more years younger you might miss a terrific woman who is right under your nose.

Here is where it gets a bit tricky. When I asked men what they were looking for, generally their lists were not very long but a bit fuzzy. I want to give you some things to watch out for, and maybe even run the other way. In other words, beware of these:

1. Avoid any woman who is financially irresponsible. You will end up in a mess. Not making much money is not the same as having poor money management skills. You don’t need that kind of grief.

2. Avoid any woman who is angry with men. This is not immediately obvious so you need to dig a bit. If she gets into past relationships and she begins to get angry, she could end up taking it out on you.

Flush out any hidden anger by asking her if she thinks the feminist movement has harmed men and women’s ability to create loving, respectful relationships. If she hasn’t thought about it, the direction you want to explore is if she thinks it feels good to have a man be a woman’s hero, to want to be the man so she can enjoy being a woman.

There is something called The Feminine Grace. It’s all about how a woman can better enjoy being a woman so she can better appreciate why she wants a man by her side. If a woman you’re getting to know doesn’t like it, she’s angry at men or too into the Feminist mentality to be able to create a balanced relationship and you should walk away.

3. Avoid women who blame others for what’s going on in their lives. Blamers will end up blaming you and won’t ever take responsibility for their part of the dance. And it does take two to do the relationship dance. Blamers also tend to be angry and bitter. Definitely not what you are looking for.

4. Avoid spoiled women because they’ll be high maintenance. A high maintenance woman expects and assumes to be pampered, given gifts, taken care of without giving you the appreciation you deserve. A low maintenance woman is appreciative for everything you do for her and enjoys giving as well as receiving. Spoiled women are like a bottomless pit and are never happy. Plus, that kind of behavior is pretty ugly.

By the way, the more beautiful a woman is, the more likely she will be spoiled and high maintenance because people have always fallen over themselves to do for and give them.

5. If she ever, even once, says something to put you down you are in for some very big trouble. She is an emasculator and her scissors are somewhere near by.

6. Avoid women who are inconsistent. You don’t want to be blindsided by erratic behavior and you don’t want to be guessing all the time.

7. Avoid women who are emotionally wacky. Women can be emotional but if they are out of control be very, very careful. She can surprise you in some pretty scary ways.

8. Avoid women who are generally unhappy. You want a woman who is happy or you will have to work too hard and will get worn out. It’s another form of being high maintenance. This type of woman is too much work and she will never be happy, no matter how much you do for her. Happiness is an inside job and has everything to do with attitude and outlook on life. Be on the lookout when you are getting to know a woman.

9. Avoid women who have no close friends. She will expect you to be everything for her, which is too much for any man to take on. And there’s something intrinsically wrong with a woman who has no close friends. She is not emotionally healthy. Notice if you have been drawn to these types of women in the past. Some men enjoy rescuing women, but then wonder why they get worn out and beaten down. 
If you want a healthy, happy woman, you must expect the same of yourself.

In the beginning of a relationship, everyone is putting their best foot forward. Unfortunately, women can be very good at acting whatever part is required to snag a man. That is one reason you should wait at least a year, probably two, before marriage. In that period of time you will begin to see inconsistencies if she is putting on an act. Pay attention to how your friends and family feel about her. If they don’t like her, that should be a big red flag. They can be much more objective than you can because they are not emotionally invested and they haven’t been having sex with her. I think you’re getting the general idea. Don’t get blinded by a woman just because she’s attractive or good in bed. If you’re looking for a healthy, solid, long-term relationship, you want someone who is basically sound. You’d do no less if you were purchasing a car.

Choose someone who makes you feel good, someone who makes you feel like a better person because you are with her. It may take a little longer to find her, but it will be well worth the wait.

The Dating predicament

Relationships are tough, like a full time occupation, and we should treat it like one. If your girlfriend wants to dump you, they should give you two weeks’ notice. There should be severance pay, and on the eve they are to leave, they should have to find you a temp!

How cool would that be? Unfortunately, it doesn’t work so and hence you need to make the effort!

Men say they just don’t want to deal with dating any more and it’s easier to stay home or go out with their men friends.

Women complain that their phone isn’t ringing. There is something seriously wrong.

Not only is it hard for people to meet, but it is equally tricky to know how to behave on a date. The overwhelming majority of single people DO want to meet someone, but they don’t know where to go. Here are some suggestions. Public lectures and workshops are excellent for meeting people with similar interests. They’re packed with women. So, men, start watching the paper and select topics that you find appealing. If you’re interested and she is, you begin with something in common.

Adult education classes are also good. Women tend to get out and do things because they prefer not to sit around and “wait for the mobile to ring.” Again, pick subjects you find fascinating.

The regular guy..

If you’re looking for a serious relationship, go to relationship classes and lectures. The women you find there are also interested or they wouldn’t be there. Be sure and watch for the wedding ring, though, because the proportion of married women at a relationship lecture is higher than a lot of other evening classes. But don’t be afraid to make friends with them. They know women who are single and good looking and you being at a relationship class or lecture will cause them to presume you’re a better catch than the regular guy.

As mentioned previously, dance classes are a good way to meet available women. Choose the kind of dancing you think you might enjoy (swing, ballroom, line, square, salsa, tango) and show up with an attitude that it will be pleasurable and maybe, just maybe, one of the women you dance with will be someone you’ll want to get to know. If you don’t meet anyone then you’ll be a superior catch because most women like a man who is a good dancer.

Never turn down a private party or wedding. It’s completely acceptable to go without a date and people are comfortable because they know at least the host and/or hostess. People are happy, their hearts are open, and they’re feeling festive, which makes them more open and friendly.

Public parties are good too, but people are not quite as comfortable. So you have to work a lot harder to get through their barriers. Normally, there are a lot of single, available, fun women at these kinds of events. Watch your local paper for theme events in public parks, dances, concerts, parades, and ticketed events.

The university often organises talks, and you get to meet university girls out there. Again, choose topic of your interest, it will make things easier.

There are also some religious talks and programmes. You will find religious and cultured girls out there. It is a perfect place to begin if you want a traditional housewife.

This may seem silly but a different fun way to meet is to borrow a puppy. Walk around or sit in a busy spot that will have a lot of happy people. Few can resist a cute puppy. Conversations begin very contentedly because you can focus on the puppy, and have something easy to talk about.

The reason to borrow a puppy is because bigger dogs don’t have the same result. Not everyone is a dog lover, but almost everyone love puppies. Don’t ever lie that it’s your puppy though. Just say it’s a friends’.

When you meet someone you want to get to know better, tell her you’re a little shy with women and someone said it’s a great ice-breaker. You’ll melt her heart.

If you do have a dog, and it’s well-mannered, do take it out to places where women will be walking: Along the beachfront, at malls, parks. If you have a dog, you want a woman who likes dogs and this is a perfect way to find only women who do.

The above suggestions make it easy to start conversations because there are built-in interests to get you started. Something to remember: everyone is just as nervous as you are and waiting for someone to get things underway. It might as well be you... and maybe a cute puppy.

Women are like Golf series

This is the Women are like Golf series. Why are women like golf? Why do we describe women like golf? The way we have illustrated it will enlighten you on the subtleties and precision needed just like in golf. 

Click on the following parts to know more:

Part 1 illustrates the need for a coach and what knowledge you need.

Part 2 illustrates why woman compare to golf. It also helps you realise the type of woman you want. It provides details how to develop your conversation skills and why you should smile. And most importantly, why practice and the power of confidence.

Part 3 focuses on more skills you need to develop such as dancing, the courteousy that woman like, and the style and aproaches. It provides information about places where you can meet woman. And you will be thrilled to know the signs women show when they are interested in you. You should also take care about specific things concerning your own self.

Part 4 provides some fine tuning and emphasize on the importance of humour. A good start matters most. And what everyone want to know: The fantasy of women - what do they really want!

Part 5 bring into light the vital theory of connection with women. When to listen and when to draw the line? why relationship falls apart? The answers are here. you will also know how to prevent any possibility of breakups.

Part 6 is a continuity of part 5 and emphasizes on the romance. We are sure you wanna know how to romance. You want to stay in love, don't you?

Women are like Golf 6

“Wow, I know you’re right but I had utterly no idea all that was going on. So if it’s normal for a woman to go into that nurturing mode, how do I counter its disadvantageous effects?” Micheal was noticeably concerned.

“First, it’s okay that you like when she starts nurturing. But you need to keep in mind two things. First, don’t let her mother you. That’s a killer of romance just on it’s own. If she starts to treat you like a child, picking up after you, reminding you to do things, etc. point out very lovingly that it feels like she’s trying to be your mom. Most women would be completely grossed out by that and they’ll stop. If she doesn’t, tell her it’s killing the romance for you. That should do it.

“The other important thing to bear in mind is, even though it is easy to get lazy about romancing her, that you both need it to keep the love and passion shimmering. Got it?” Coach Jake asked.

keep the love and passion shimmering

 Micheal, a bit cautious, agreed, “Yeah, I’ve got the notion but I’m not sure how to romance a woman I’m involved with.”

“Remember when I was telling you how to make a woman feel comfortable when you first meet? Compliments? Asking her questions about herself? Listening? Doing thoughtful things? You can’t stop doing all that if you want to keep a woman happy.

“And if she’s not giving you opportunities to be her superman, you take charge. When she’s doing something where you can help, or just do it for her, do it. If she says, ‘No, I can do it,’ tell her, ‘Let me lend a hand to you. I like being your man.’ That should melt her heart and open that door.”

Micheal high-fived Coach Jake and they both laughed.

“Since we’re back to keeping that door open, let me explain to you a bit more. Men get held responsible for being dogs and having affairs. It’s often because the door is closed. But why is the door closed? Maybe it’s closed because you both got busy with life, kids, jobs, laundry and yard work. But maybe, just possibly, the door is closed because you’re not such a great lover. Men take for granted they are because they can get it up. Well, believe me, there’s a whole lot more to it than that. If you’re used to the microwave style of lovemaking, she’s not even ready and you’re done. She needs the oven and she needs to be pre-heated.

“What goes on with new love? Lots of kisses, caressing her entire body, nibble everywhere. That’s the warm-up time she needs. You do a lot of that because you’re so excited about exploring her body. But with time, the freshness wears off and you quit making her feel exceptional, sexy, attractive, and womanly. She needs that more than you can visualize. For women, sex is mostly what’s going on in their brains so it takes a lot more time to warm that oven up.

“Ask her what she likes. Every woman is different but most are not at ease at communicating their specific needs and wishes. perhaps something that worked great with your last girlfriend turns this one off. Pay attention. Be attentive. Listen and learn. It’s like interpreting the green. You don’t hit every putt the same. Some greens are uphill, some downhill, some have a lot of break and some so little that you almost can’t tell. You want to get on the green, don’t you? Your approach shot has to be just right, and what about your chipping? Do you really practice your short game? Or are you like all the other guys, just drive, drive, drive as hard as you can.

“Making love to a woman is the reverse of how you shoot each hole. Start with the putt, gently, with care and tenderness, and then go out from there, using the right club at the right time. Then you can finish with the big tee shot.”

They both laughed and Micheal realized he was starting over in more ways than one.

“To stay in love, you have to keep on making each other feel terrific. You have to have fun and be mischievous with each other. You can’t let that stuff slide. Make a point to keep dates with each other, make her feel special by being thoughtful and she’ll want to make you feel special. And she’ll keep that door wide open. It’s so much simpler if you keep it a priority… like playing golf every week. You know if you let it go, your games gets out of form and you don’t enjoy it nearly as much as when you’re on top of your form. Micheal, with the next woman you meet, do the things I’m advising and you could start shooting in the 70’s every time.

“By the way, when you find the right club to join, don’t expect to have a caddy. Carry your own weight. A husband shouldn’t expect this wife to wait on him. If you both do nice, considerate, supportive things for each other, as a regular part of how you treat each other all the time, your marriage will succeed and blossom.”

“You know, Coach, I really appreciate that you took the time to talk to me. I’ve really been in the dark and I’m excited to try your advice. I’ll let you know how it goes.”

The two men stood up shaking hands and were laughing simultaneously; they stepped forward and gave each other a big warm bear hug.

Women are like Golf 5

“Here is some help turning that light of awareness on. Women talk to connect. It is not so much what they say as that they’re sharing with you. When they’re thrilled about something, or angry, or anything in between, they frequently want to tell you about it so they can share that feeling with you. So if you remember that she’s trying to connect with you, it will help.

“But to even things out, you should clarify to her that you are not really into the same stuff. And that you’re not as good a listener as her girlfriends might be. But tell her when she’s excited about something, you’ll pay attention, but not to wait for it all the time.

“Compare yourself to a computer. Tell her it’s more than your computer can handle and when there’s information overload, your computer just freezes up. She may not like it, but she’ll be grateful for that you want to listen and that you’re responsive of her need to share.”

“This is fascinating. Connecting, huh? I had no idea.” Micheal was looking a bit mystified. 

Connecting..

 “Yes, what she is really doing when she talks to you, at least most of the time, is connecting with you. She and her girlfriends share to connect and the more deeply they share, meaning talking about their feelings, the more deeply they attach with each other. She wants that same feeling of connection with you. It’s very significant to her. It’s like her means of support. It’s what makes it all meaningful.

“So if the details become too much for you, ask her how it makes her feel. Then it will be more personal. Just try to find a balance and stay open to communicating what’s going on for you. It’s the greatest souvenir you can give

her and the easiest way to make her happy; listen to her and let her know what’s going on for you.”

“Coach, I can see how that’s almost certainly one of the major reasons my relationships fall apart. I’m blameworthy of not listening. No wonder they dump me.” Micheal put his head in his hands as he realized he’d lost out on some great opportunities with the women he’d loved.

“Micheal, it’s never too late to begin to do it right. You’ve never had education so why would you think you’d be an expert at this stuff? Most guys don’t have a hint, they just make it up as they go.

“Here’s some delicate stuff. Do you think you’re a good lover?”

Micheal squirmed and said, “Yeah, sure. Why not?”

“How did you learn to make love to a woman? Bits of information here and there?”

Micheal nodded, afraid to meet his coach’s stare, realizing there was perhaps a lot more to be taught on this subject as well.

“I don’t think most men are very good lovers. Most men are happy with the snack bar at the turn. A quick sandwich and off to the tenth hole. Like the microwave. Zap! And it’s done. Or the big drive and no short game, no elegance”.

“With women, you need to use the oven. Look at any recipe and it says, ‘pre-heat oven.’ This is not snack bar time. It’s gourmet cooking.

“Romance is the key. Guys think romance is getting her ready for sex. That’s absolutely incorrect. Romance is something you do all the time to keep her in the mood to being open to having sex.

“Did you get that? There’s a clever difference. You want to keep her in the mood to being ‘open to having sex’ so when you move in for the real thing, because you’ve been making her feel exceptional, she’s as ready as you are.

“It’s really getting her ‘in the mood’ to ‘get into the mood.’ When you quit doing the romantic stuff, which almost always happens once things settle down and become comfortable, she begins to shut down and then you

wonder why she thinks you’re pawing her when you want to make love.

“Romance is like a door. It stays open if you do those little considerate things all the time. The longer you go without doing those things that make her feel special, the more likely she’s not only going to shut the door, she’s likely to lock it. Remember those club dues? Romance is like paying those club dues. If you go long enough without paying, they’re not going to let you play there any more.”

“Romance, huh? It’s not natural for me to think about that kind of stuff, but it does make sense. Puts a whole new spin on things.” Micheal stared at nothing in particular, lost in his thoughts.

Coach kept talking but raised his voice to get Micheal’s attention back, “Here’s something most people aren’t conscious of. It’s not all your fault that the romance dies down. See, when you become a couple, and the time you spend together starts to be more about just hanging out at each other’s places, the liveliness shifts over to nesting, at least for her. Remember that fantasy.

“In the beginning, you are doing for her, taking care of her, making her feel really special, going on dates, making preparations and buying her gifts. She’s receiving all your interest, soaking it up. You get to be the man – which is outward – doing for her, and she gets to be the woman – all about inward – receiving.

“Then, wham! You become a couple. Her nesting instincts kick in and she becomes ‘Nellie The Nurturer’. She starts doing for you, cooking for you, maybe cleaning, serving you out, making provision for your social life. She’s happily enjoying the fantasy.

Girlfriends connecting..

“And, Micheal, what do you do when this starts happening?” Coach waited for Micheal to respond.

“I didn’t even know this was going on so how could I know?” Micheal said defensively. Coach Jake waited.

“Okay, I guess I like it. It feels nice to let her do all that for me. But what does that have to do with me being less romantic?”

“Of course you like it. And because all of a sudden the weight is off of you, you relax and sit back and lie around in your woman doing all that for you. But then, she begins to hint that you’re not being as romantic. She’ll say things like, ‘You don’t take me out to nice restaurants any more.’ And you’ll say, ‘Sure I do.’ But then, you realize she’s right. So you make a big production of taking her out. The problem is, the energy has shifted and you’re not focused on her and she can feel it. Every once in a while just doesn’t feel as good as when you were working to win her over.

“You both become aware of the shift in energy, but you don’t identify what has changed. She begins to whimper and complain, you begin to back off and all of a sudden, one of you decides to call it quits.”

Women are like Golf 4

“Back to our lesson.. You’ve been going out practicing, getting more confident, and becoming natural at making women feel at ease.

“Finally, you meet someone you’re fascinated to. Your practice is paying off. You’ve got her talking, laughing (women value a good sense of humor more than you can imagine), she’s even leaning in to you and has touched your arm once. The GO signals are there. She seems anxious but interested and when you ask if you can call her, she says YES.

“You are going to the first date with her. This will be the first time you’ve played this course.  So you want it to be the best round possible.

“With golf you have to pay attention to the subtlest fine points.. choosing which club to select, which side of the fairway you should aim for, are there any hazards that you have to take care of, and the lay of the green.. and even the wind. Be just as attentive and conscious with this new woman.

“With each shot, you have to pay close attention to where the ball lands. Each time you play the course, you learn the fine details. How did she respond to that last question? Is she turning out to be someone you really enjoy or are there red flags that you should pay attention to? You can’t be disorganized or you’re going to blow it. It’s about being awake instead of asleep. If she’s someone you think could be the right one, you’re talking about your future life so get off to a good start. It’s like the tee shot. If you blow it, the rest of the hole will probably not go well. And you know that if you mess up on the first hole, you could very well find the entire round a bust.”

“You know Coach, this is the first time I’ve felt like this man/woman thing makes sense. I don’t feel so ignorant. I feel like I’ll actually do better next time I meet someone. Why is that?”

“That’s a good question, Micheal. I think it’s because when we’re just living life – including interacting with women – by the seat of our pants. Everything seems to be a bit of a mystery. Eventually, we end up being staggered a lot of the time and even broadsided occasionally. As you understand of the importance of paying closer attention to what you’re doing grows, it’s kind of like a light is being turned on.”

Micheal approved, “Yeah that does make so much sense! I’m actually getting excited about what is achievable for me now. What else can you tell me, this is getting fun?” Encouraged, Coach Jake continued.

 

The fantasy of women: Their perfect prince

“Here’s what women want. As a little boy, did you play pretend wedding?”

Micheal groaned, “Geeze, Coach, no way.”

“Of course not, but she did. Don’t look so amazed, most little girls do. Did you relate to the fairy tale where the prince swept the princess off her feet and carried her off to the castle? No? I didn’t think so. But she did. So much so, she’s still kind of hoping that might happen. It’s mostly subconscious, and she knows it’s irrational, but it’s a little-girl fantasy that never quite goes away.

“With her fantasy, the problem is how do you fight with a perfect prince? You can’t. But you can compete with all the other men out there and be the man that exceeds her grown-up, womanly dreams; i.e the man she brags about when she gets together with her friends; the man other women wish their husbands or boyfriends were like.” Coach Jake took a sip of his now-cold coffee and Micheal waited for more of his intelligence.

“You’ve settled on your preferred course and are actually considering joining. It’s a big step, but you know the benefits will be well worth any sacrifices you’ll have to make to take up the expense, time and responsibility into your life. It’s what you want. You want to join this course because you feel good when you’re out there. It’s beautiful, you get to let go of your uncertainties and concerns, and belonging is.. well.. belonging!

“And Isn’t it same with a woman? She makes you feel terrific, right?. It’s the same for her: you make her feel terrific. You stay in good standing at your golf club because you pay your monthly dues and treat the course and the members with respect. The difference with her is you pay dues every day, not in cash, but to keep her feeling loved. If she feels loved, respected, beautiful, sexy, cherished and adored, she’s going to want to continue to make you feel the same. It goes both ways.

“Continue to do all the things you did when you were first winning her heart; and on top of that, add a lot of things that she would consider creative. like some notes of love, listening to her, and those little gifts for no reason and you’ll have one happy woman on your hands: a woman who is proud to have you as her husband.

“Golf is a quiet game, like most guys. It suits them just fine not to say much. But here’s where women are different. Women have a lot more to say. They really enjoy the little particulars of life.

“As an example, ask her how many shades of lipstick she has. Do you notice that she uses more than one, depending on her outfit? Maybe not. But she sure does. Fringe on the pillows? Did you even know that pillows have fringe? She does because she picked it. It’s the details, Micheal, so get used to hearing about them. Listening to her tell you about those little details that electrify her is one of the best gifts you can give her. It might make you little bit crazy but you’ll make her really happy.”

“But,” Micheal groaned, “Why do they go on and on like that? It really does put on a guy’s patience.”

Next we will turn that light of awareness on with: Women talk to connect.

Women are like Golf 3

Sincere apology for the lateness in getting on with the next part. Firstly, i was busy with life and at the same time preparing the topics.. but the most important thing that will encourage me is your comments. please comment and help motivate me to carry on further to sharing such valuable information to you.

So, we pointed out about the skills needed and the extra things what will be helpful to get the game on. Well, we will continue with that.

“How about dancing skills? Do you think a couple of lessons could be useful? It is worth the investment and it is also an excellent place to meet interesting women. You’d be surprised how many single and available women take dancing lessons. Some of them, in a view to find love”

Perfect woman has skills n talents.. find them there!

Surprised, Micheal said, “I always assumed that people who took dancing lessons went only as  couples. It never happened to me to go alone. I do like to dance but I don’t feel that comfortable with it. I think I might actually try it. But don’t tell the guys, okay?”

“Don’t worry, this is between you and me. Finally, always show a woman respect. Golf is a  gentlemen’s game. Be a gentleman with women. That is really important. You’re looking for someone to love and probably marry, maybe the mother of your future children. If you only see a woman as a sex object, you’re not going to get a very good start.

“Screw the stupid feminists and go ahead to open doors for her.. put your hand on the small of her back while you are guiding her through a room, help her with her coat, hold her hand, and give her warm hugs. The reason I say that is I think too many guys don’t think to show affection unless it’s sexual. Women don’t like men who are gropers.

“They want a man who is warm and affectionate. And ignore that crap about nice guys finishing last. If you want a good woman, she will surely appreciate who you really are as long as you aren’t a wimp. Remember to stay confident and that your job is to make her feel taken care of. If you acquiescing to what she wants – which is one of the biggest mistake ‘nice

guys’ make with women – she loses respect for you. And you need to be respected by a woman! she needs to respect and look up to you as well. That's what makes a man!

“Don’t swear in front of her. If she swears like a guy (which a lot of women do now) ask yourself if that’s the kind of woman you want. Sometime it’s okay but mostly it’s not. Get good at being respectful and you’ll get good at being in a relationship. You get what you sow!

“Be yourself but you should often practice different approaches and styles. Expand how you relate with people and it will rub off on how you relate to women. When you find something that’s comfortable for you, chances are you will notice you’re having more success by how women are responding to you. If you are comfortable with it, you are confident with it!”

Micheal listened as he wrote and signaled Coach Jake to continue.

“Now, you’ve consequently found the golf course that has your favorite qualities.” Coach Jake smiled. “It turns out you met her in a class you were taking, which is great because you both have something of interest in common.”

Micheal looked puzzled.

“Ohh, I think I forgot to mentions that lectures and workshops are mostly filled with women. Pick topics that you like and get out there. You just might meet your perfect woman. You wil easily make contact to discuss topics and conversation flows easier”

“Hey coach, there is one thing that I don’t get. When is a woman interested. Do you have any clues on that?”

Coach Jake smiled, “That’s a million dollar question boy and I’m glad you thought of it. I would have hated to skip something so important. One of the first signs a woman is interested is she’ll often drop her eyes when you look at her the first few times. Guys usually think that means she’s not interested. Wrong. If you look back and you catch her looking at you, she’s interested. you almost aced it then!

Coach leaned forward, with a bit more intensity in his expression, “But this is important, even if you have no clue – as long as she hasn’t been giving you the brush-off – think about how few women you meet that you really do find attractive. I don’t mean just sexy. There are plenty of those around. I mean she’s got that extra something that grabs your attention. Tel me yourself, which would be worse: not making an overture and maybe missing a great opportunity OR making a move and being rejected?”

 

“Ugh,” Micheal groaned, “I hate being rejected but I get your point. I’d never thought about it that way. I just focus on the discomfort of being rejected. I need to focus on the positives!

But now that you’ve opened my eyes, I don’t want to miss another opportunity again.”

“Good, because I can guarantee you’ve met your ideal match more than once but didn’t ever give you or her a chance to find out. You both lost out eventually. And remember, most women are waiting for you to take charge. Be the man! So they’re not going to make a move on you. And dont you think its more fun when you get to be the guy, even though it’s flattering when a woman comes on to you?” 

Sighing, Micheal agreed, “Yeah, I have to agree you’re right.”

“Okay, you’ve been going well through the driving range so you’ve become a natural at each of your shots. You’re a very good listener, you ask meaningful questions, you smile and treat her with respect.

“By the way, are you the kind of golfer who cleans his clubs after each shot and especially after each round?”

Micheal answered with caution, not being sure where Coach was going with this question, “Well, sure, of course. Only idiots don’t clean their clubs. But what has that got to do with finding a woman?”

“Micheal, I can’t believe you don’t see the connection. You’ve got to take just as much care of yourself as you do your clubs. Never let your hair go too long without a haircut, keep your clothes clean and pressed, your fingernails and toenails well manicured. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?!”

Micheal laughed.

“I mean it. You have no idea how quickly women are turned off by badly maintained hands and feet. Trust me, it’s not worth the risk.”

Micheal’s mouth was hanging open in disbelief.

“Close your mouth Micheal, just note the point. It’s important.”

Micheal wrote as Coach Jake continued, “Keep your shoes polished and well maintained, don’t let your belts get frayed or stretched out of shape. Keep your car sparkling and cleaned out, and when it’s time for her to see your home, be sure it’s in perfect condition.

“And don’t let anything smell bad: You, your clothes or shoes, your car, or your home. Women are completely turned off by bad smells. I'm sure, you too? But don’t do the cologne thing either, unless it’s really mild. A woman should only smell your cologne when she hugs you. Preferably, just smell clean. Got it?”

“Yeah, sure, Coach. I never gave it so much thought but thankfully, I’m normally a pretty careful guy. But now I’ll pay closer attention. Wouldn’t want to lose out just because my shoes were scuffed or i had bad breath.” Micheal grinned.

“Well, here’s a good time for me to toss out some advice that has pretty big ramifications. Floss.”

Micheal’s eyes grew, questioning Coach’s sanity.

“I mean it, floss your teeth every night. Partly, because you’re much less likely to ever have bad breath and partly because there’s pretty conclusive evidence that flossing keeps you from having heart problems, keeps your immune system strong, may even help you live longer. You ace twice the benefits for one little thing. Just get in the habit – twenty one days and it will be automatic – and you’ll never have to worry about turning off a woman with bad breath. After all, you want a woman to want to kiss you, don’t you?” Coach laughed.

“Okay, okay!! I get the message. I’ll start flossing.”

They both laughed together. I'm sure you must be pondering, smiling and questioning too! So, please give us your feedback and comment below. Feel free to share any other tips you think is helpful until we see the woman's fantasy for her perfect prince.