Women are like Golf series

This is the Women are like Golf series. Why are women like golf? Why do we describe women like golf? The way we have illustrated it will enlighten you on the subtleties and precision needed just like in golf. 

Click on the following parts to know more:

Part 1 illustrates the need for a coach and what knowledge you need.

Part 2 illustrates why woman compare to golf. It also helps you realise the type of woman you want. It provides details how to develop your conversation skills and why you should smile. And most importantly, why practice and the power of confidence.

Part 3 focuses on more skills you need to develop such as dancing, the courteousy that woman like, and the style and aproaches. It provides information about places where you can meet woman. And you will be thrilled to know the signs women show when they are interested in you. You should also take care about specific things concerning your own self.

Part 4 provides some fine tuning and emphasize on the importance of humour. A good start matters most. And what everyone want to know: The fantasy of women - what do they really want!

Part 5 bring into light the vital theory of connection with women. When to listen and when to draw the line? why relationship falls apart? The answers are here. you will also know how to prevent any possibility of breakups.

Part 6 is a continuity of part 5 and emphasizes on the romance. We are sure you wanna know how to romance. You want to stay in love, don't you?

Women are like Golf 6

“Wow, I know you’re right but I had utterly no idea all that was going on. So if it’s normal for a woman to go into that nurturing mode, how do I counter its disadvantageous effects?” Micheal was noticeably concerned.

“First, it’s okay that you like when she starts nurturing. But you need to keep in mind two things. First, don’t let her mother you. That’s a killer of romance just on it’s own. If she starts to treat you like a child, picking up after you, reminding you to do things, etc. point out very lovingly that it feels like she’s trying to be your mom. Most women would be completely grossed out by that and they’ll stop. If she doesn’t, tell her it’s killing the romance for you. That should do it.

“The other important thing to bear in mind is, even though it is easy to get lazy about romancing her, that you both need it to keep the love and passion shimmering. Got it?” Coach Jake asked.

keep the love and passion shimmering

 Micheal, a bit cautious, agreed, “Yeah, I’ve got the notion but I’m not sure how to romance a woman I’m involved with.”

“Remember when I was telling you how to make a woman feel comfortable when you first meet? Compliments? Asking her questions about herself? Listening? Doing thoughtful things? You can’t stop doing all that if you want to keep a woman happy.

“And if she’s not giving you opportunities to be her superman, you take charge. When she’s doing something where you can help, or just do it for her, do it. If she says, ‘No, I can do it,’ tell her, ‘Let me lend a hand to you. I like being your man.’ That should melt her heart and open that door.”

Micheal high-fived Coach Jake and they both laughed.

“Since we’re back to keeping that door open, let me explain to you a bit more. Men get held responsible for being dogs and having affairs. It’s often because the door is closed. But why is the door closed? Maybe it’s closed because you both got busy with life, kids, jobs, laundry and yard work. But maybe, just possibly, the door is closed because you’re not such a great lover. Men take for granted they are because they can get it up. Well, believe me, there’s a whole lot more to it than that. If you’re used to the microwave style of lovemaking, she’s not even ready and you’re done. She needs the oven and she needs to be pre-heated.

“What goes on with new love? Lots of kisses, caressing her entire body, nibble everywhere. That’s the warm-up time she needs. You do a lot of that because you’re so excited about exploring her body. But with time, the freshness wears off and you quit making her feel exceptional, sexy, attractive, and womanly. She needs that more than you can visualize. For women, sex is mostly what’s going on in their brains so it takes a lot more time to warm that oven up.

“Ask her what she likes. Every woman is different but most are not at ease at communicating their specific needs and wishes. perhaps something that worked great with your last girlfriend turns this one off. Pay attention. Be attentive. Listen and learn. It’s like interpreting the green. You don’t hit every putt the same. Some greens are uphill, some downhill, some have a lot of break and some so little that you almost can’t tell. You want to get on the green, don’t you? Your approach shot has to be just right, and what about your chipping? Do you really practice your short game? Or are you like all the other guys, just drive, drive, drive as hard as you can.

“Making love to a woman is the reverse of how you shoot each hole. Start with the putt, gently, with care and tenderness, and then go out from there, using the right club at the right time. Then you can finish with the big tee shot.”

They both laughed and Micheal realized he was starting over in more ways than one.

“To stay in love, you have to keep on making each other feel terrific. You have to have fun and be mischievous with each other. You can’t let that stuff slide. Make a point to keep dates with each other, make her feel special by being thoughtful and she’ll want to make you feel special. And she’ll keep that door wide open. It’s so much simpler if you keep it a priority… like playing golf every week. You know if you let it go, your games gets out of form and you don’t enjoy it nearly as much as when you’re on top of your form. Micheal, with the next woman you meet, do the things I’m advising and you could start shooting in the 70’s every time.

“By the way, when you find the right club to join, don’t expect to have a caddy. Carry your own weight. A husband shouldn’t expect this wife to wait on him. If you both do nice, considerate, supportive things for each other, as a regular part of how you treat each other all the time, your marriage will succeed and blossom.”

“You know, Coach, I really appreciate that you took the time to talk to me. I’ve really been in the dark and I’m excited to try your advice. I’ll let you know how it goes.”

The two men stood up shaking hands and were laughing simultaneously; they stepped forward and gave each other a big warm bear hug.

Women are like Golf 5

“Here is some help turning that light of awareness on. Women talk to connect. It is not so much what they say as that they’re sharing with you. When they’re thrilled about something, or angry, or anything in between, they frequently want to tell you about it so they can share that feeling with you. So if you remember that she’s trying to connect with you, it will help.

“But to even things out, you should clarify to her that you are not really into the same stuff. And that you’re not as good a listener as her girlfriends might be. But tell her when she’s excited about something, you’ll pay attention, but not to wait for it all the time.

“Compare yourself to a computer. Tell her it’s more than your computer can handle and when there’s information overload, your computer just freezes up. She may not like it, but she’ll be grateful for that you want to listen and that you’re responsive of her need to share.”

“This is fascinating. Connecting, huh? I had no idea.” Micheal was looking a bit mystified. 

Connecting..

 “Yes, what she is really doing when she talks to you, at least most of the time, is connecting with you. She and her girlfriends share to connect and the more deeply they share, meaning talking about their feelings, the more deeply they attach with each other. She wants that same feeling of connection with you. It’s very significant to her. It’s like her means of support. It’s what makes it all meaningful.

“So if the details become too much for you, ask her how it makes her feel. Then it will be more personal. Just try to find a balance and stay open to communicating what’s going on for you. It’s the greatest souvenir you can give

her and the easiest way to make her happy; listen to her and let her know what’s going on for you.”

“Coach, I can see how that’s almost certainly one of the major reasons my relationships fall apart. I’m blameworthy of not listening. No wonder they dump me.” Micheal put his head in his hands as he realized he’d lost out on some great opportunities with the women he’d loved.

“Micheal, it’s never too late to begin to do it right. You’ve never had education so why would you think you’d be an expert at this stuff? Most guys don’t have a hint, they just make it up as they go.

“Here’s some delicate stuff. Do you think you’re a good lover?”

Micheal squirmed and said, “Yeah, sure. Why not?”

“How did you learn to make love to a woman? Bits of information here and there?”

Micheal nodded, afraid to meet his coach’s stare, realizing there was perhaps a lot more to be taught on this subject as well.

“I don’t think most men are very good lovers. Most men are happy with the snack bar at the turn. A quick sandwich and off to the tenth hole. Like the microwave. Zap! And it’s done. Or the big drive and no short game, no elegance”.

“With women, you need to use the oven. Look at any recipe and it says, ‘pre-heat oven.’ This is not snack bar time. It’s gourmet cooking.

“Romance is the key. Guys think romance is getting her ready for sex. That’s absolutely incorrect. Romance is something you do all the time to keep her in the mood to being open to having sex.

“Did you get that? There’s a clever difference. You want to keep her in the mood to being ‘open to having sex’ so when you move in for the real thing, because you’ve been making her feel exceptional, she’s as ready as you are.

“It’s really getting her ‘in the mood’ to ‘get into the mood.’ When you quit doing the romantic stuff, which almost always happens once things settle down and become comfortable, she begins to shut down and then you

wonder why she thinks you’re pawing her when you want to make love.

“Romance is like a door. It stays open if you do those little considerate things all the time. The longer you go without doing those things that make her feel special, the more likely she’s not only going to shut the door, she’s likely to lock it. Remember those club dues? Romance is like paying those club dues. If you go long enough without paying, they’re not going to let you play there any more.”

“Romance, huh? It’s not natural for me to think about that kind of stuff, but it does make sense. Puts a whole new spin on things.” Micheal stared at nothing in particular, lost in his thoughts.

Coach kept talking but raised his voice to get Micheal’s attention back, “Here’s something most people aren’t conscious of. It’s not all your fault that the romance dies down. See, when you become a couple, and the time you spend together starts to be more about just hanging out at each other’s places, the liveliness shifts over to nesting, at least for her. Remember that fantasy.

“In the beginning, you are doing for her, taking care of her, making her feel really special, going on dates, making preparations and buying her gifts. She’s receiving all your interest, soaking it up. You get to be the man – which is outward – doing for her, and she gets to be the woman – all about inward – receiving.

“Then, wham! You become a couple. Her nesting instincts kick in and she becomes ‘Nellie The Nurturer’. She starts doing for you, cooking for you, maybe cleaning, serving you out, making provision for your social life. She’s happily enjoying the fantasy.

Girlfriends connecting..

“And, Micheal, what do you do when this starts happening?” Coach waited for Micheal to respond.

“I didn’t even know this was going on so how could I know?” Micheal said defensively. Coach Jake waited.

“Okay, I guess I like it. It feels nice to let her do all that for me. But what does that have to do with me being less romantic?”

“Of course you like it. And because all of a sudden the weight is off of you, you relax and sit back and lie around in your woman doing all that for you. But then, she begins to hint that you’re not being as romantic. She’ll say things like, ‘You don’t take me out to nice restaurants any more.’ And you’ll say, ‘Sure I do.’ But then, you realize she’s right. So you make a big production of taking her out. The problem is, the energy has shifted and you’re not focused on her and she can feel it. Every once in a while just doesn’t feel as good as when you were working to win her over.

“You both become aware of the shift in energy, but you don’t identify what has changed. She begins to whimper and complain, you begin to back off and all of a sudden, one of you decides to call it quits.”